Ashes to ashes, reneged to overasserted

This is not being tepidly polite. It's not about defending your ideas lukewarmly either. Nothing to do with putting it mildly or other slight trepidations of meaning. No hot denial, no denying hotly, no dense reply on the hotline. They're not ignoring you coolly ; they're not ignoring you at all ; they're not even aware that you are there. No cold shoulders, so that you can't have heard the missus saying anything coldly (or coldly enough).

Roughly speaking : enough said.